BIG BOYS DO CRY!

Remember Frankie Valli’s hit song, “Big Girls Don’t Cry?” Many of us can probably sing a few verses. Well, like you, I learned the hard way that as widowers, BIG BOYS ALSO CRY! And we often find it to be a shock to our system.

Nothing can be more disconcerting for our sons and daughters than to see their father cry…

Widower Grief Experience, Widower Relationships, Widower blog, Widower, Widower EmotionsFred ColbyOctober 13, 2025Fred Colby, AuthorBehavior of a widower, Coping with death of wife, overcoming widower isolation, Healing Grief, Stages of grief, Blogs for widowers, How to repair broken relationships with a widower, Changes to expect for widower, widower problemsComment

Should I Date Again?

Once you have made the decision to date again as a widower, prepare yourself for the shock of entering a much different dating scene after an absence of many years…

Widower Relationships, Widower Self Help, Widowers and datingFred ColbyJune 26, 2023Fred Colby, AuthorBlogs for widowers, healing grief, When to start dating after death of spouse, widower loneliness, Is a widower ready to date Comments

Financial Landmines

My father died when he was 33 years of age, so I realized the importance of getting my finances in order while still young… Eventually when I came out of deep grieving, I realized that everything about our finances had been structured for her survival, not mine.

Widower Self Help, Widower Grief Experience, Widower blogFred ColbySeptember 14, 2021Fred Colby, AuthorBlogs for widowers, Healing Grief, Widower’s syndrome, Widower behaviorComment

Widower: A Message for a Widower’s Friends and Family

A kind word can save a widower. Amazing, but true! When a widower is buried in grief, just one kind word from someone can make their grief bearable and make their chances of surviving their grief intact more likely. More than once a friend called me at just the right time and offered kind words of support, or to meet with me, or to help in some way….

Widower Relationships, Widower Self Help, Widower Grief Experience, Widower blogFred ColbyJanuary 25, 2021Fred Colby, AuthorWidower Families, widowers asking for help, Widower’s syndrome, Blogs for widowersComment

Widower: Rejecting false gods

Whether you believe in God, Allah, Yahweh, or a spiritual universe, you probably have heard the phrase, “Don’t bow down to false gods.” When we are grieving, many false gods may tempt us and drag us into a pit of despair…

Widower Grief Experience, Widower Self HelpFred ColbyJuly 28, 2020Fred Colby, AuthorWidower’s syndrome, Widower Health, Blogs for widowers, How to heal after a spouse dies, widower loneliness, Widower Isolation Comments

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